How should I contend with my attraction towards my psychiatrist?
Thursday, December 11th, 2008 at
4:19 am
Sid Finch asked:
I am aware of the”oath” and I don’t intend to pursue a relationship (b/c she’s married) . I’d like to know if bringing it out in the open is wise or not. I am not sure if my attraction is avoiding key topics (sexual) in my life. In the future would it cause certain barriers between each other. Thanks in advance for your wisdom.
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Find another one.
You should definitely tell her. She might recommend someone new for you, but you might need someone new, if you’re that attracted to her.
if she was any good at her job shed already know and if she does and aint taklking about it then shes working you for the cash . change docs and then tell him or her all about it .
Reaffirm that you’re crazy to begin with, and don’t take your perceptions too seriously.
Talk to her about it. Attraction to a psychiatrist is pretty common. Patients are more open with them than with most other people. I’m sure she has been there before. You may be able to resolve it with her and avoid other inappropriate attractions. If she encourages you in any way, find someone new. She has a job to do. *** isn’t part of it.
Well, to get the most out of your therapy, you may want to consider getting another psychiatrist. However, if you want to revel in it, go ahead and risk it but if she finds out what you’re up to, she will also probably tell you to get another shrink which would mean that you won’t get to see her as often in a professional setting.
Watch The Sopranos. You’ll be able to relate to Tony Soprano and his thing for his therapist.
Wow what a situation to be into. Ask her. You are safe (and a winner all the way). As her patient hats one of the defining turmoils of your personality….she may address it just as a doctor (most unlikely, even doctors are humans and patients), and advise you, or she may just fall for you…either way you are safe.
It is called transference and it happens very often to therapists by their patients. You just mention it to her. It is part of the therapy, and completely irrational, but that is why you have to discuss it. Believe me, every psychiatrist has heard that from multiple patients before, so this is nothing new to the doctor.
sometimes when we find someone who helps us, we confuse gratitude with romance… Our emotions are out of place… look again at what makes you think you “attracted” possible reasons for being attracted to a psychiatrist…
a good shrink should produce a result of Independence… if she creates an illusion of you need me she’s not helping you… on the other side if you can see yourself getting some help and then leaving her, you have a dependency problem… a good shrink will push you away or let you be independent and sort out most of your own thoughts… they are meant to be a sounding board, not your whole life… In my experience I found most are not good at what they set out to achieve, the mental wellness of an individual…
dependency whether she cultivates it or we fall into it… another one is our dependence on medication rather than healing… meds are meant to subdue some of the symptoms so we can objectively over come them… a shrink who thinks that “you’ll have to take these for the rest of your life” are really not producing healing…
so get your head out of the clouds, I don’t know what symptoms that bring you to a doctor, but you are not helping yourself by giving into an unrealistic fantasy….
I asked my counselor out once.
Unfortunately she turned me down.
I would not recommend you asking her out.
Not unless you want to get your feelings hurt.
tell her, and you´ll both work out soluctions for it.
i´m a psichologyst that fell in love with her patient,and our luck was the he was brave enough to say it. the relationship in now going into the third year.